10 Tips To Improve Your Wellbeing
by E K Wills
© artwork by Coco Reid
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2. The mind loves telling stories: it never stops. Give it a name to distance yourself from it, like the “I can’t make anything change” story.
When you try
to ignore it or make it positive, or tell yourself a better one
(like “I am abundant”), it doesn’t usually work in the long run. The problem is
not the negative story but the fuse you put to it, reacting like it is the
truth. Rather acknowledge that ‘this is the story’.
3. We don’t choose most of the thoughts in our head: especially the unhelpful ones. We can choose to not take them seriously or spend any energy on them. But what if the thought is true, though?
Consider
whether it is useful. It is still a story that pops into your head. So we can try
and defuse it in our minds with something like “Thanks for sharing” rather than
getting caught up in the drama.
4. We can’t
always see the whole picture! If we can start to resist our automatic responses
and look for what could be hidden or as yet unknown, we may be surprised and
even change our point of view.
5. Emotions are
useful for different reasons: anger can motivate action, sadness can lead to
acceptance, guilt can lead to change. The key is to be aware of what we are
feeling and then ‘unfusing’ it (self awareness) and separating the decision
making from the emotion.
This can
lead to more understanding of why we’re experiencing this a particular way. For
example, you’re depressed but can see that what is making you depressed is what
you are angry about. That could motivate you to do something about it.
It’s about
recognizing what’s happening and using the emotions in helpful ways
(resilience).
6. If we always
take the path of least resistance, we fail to change because we don’t feel safe
trying to build new neural connections. But it can be rewarding when we do.
7. Acceptance
is a powerful alternative to control. If your life isn’t working for you, take
action to change it. This will be more effective when starting from a place of
acceptance (although you don't have to like it). Then energy can be put into
action rather than wasted on struggle.
8. We spend a
third of our time travelling to the past or the future: mindfulness can help us
learn to stay more in the present.
9. Great quote
“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always
gotten”.
10. The debate about nature vs nurture currently
agrees that we are a product of both. Now talk is focused on people’s predispositions:
dandilions or orchids. One can survive on anything (resilient) and the other
requires the right circumstances to flourish (fragile). Dandelions can grow
anywhere but when there is a mismatch of environment for orchids, it can turn
cactus. But when it works, they can blossom beautifully.
These mental health observations were
originally all posted on instagram at ekwills with images.
by E K Wills
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